Here’s The Deal with Entertaining by Ginger Johnson
- to hold the attention of pleasantly or agreeably; divert; amuse.
- to have as a guest; provide food, lodging, etc., for; show hospitality to.
My Fine Husband inherited my enthusiasm and love for entertaining when we got together. Rather, he accepted my desire because he has seen, though doing it with me, the true joy it can bring to others, the joy it brings us and the community it builds.
Entertaining to me means treating people. Taking care of them in a hospitable manner, letting them know you care about them, anticipate their requests and generally make them welcome in all regards when you invite them to your home. Letting them let it all hang out – or at least hang in a relaxed, this feels great way. It’s sweet success for all.
To this end, it’s always confounding to me when people share the well-intentioned thought rarely true sentiment: “We’ll have you over as soon as….” The new floor gets put in. The kids are gone to college. I finish painting the rec room.
NEWS FLASH: I don’t care about these things. I care about hanging out with you. Your floors can be not freshly swept, the bathroom can be in need of a tub scrub, and the menu can be beans and weenies. I don’t care.
What I do care about – as guest and host – is that we share times and create memories together. THAT’S what entertaining is about. Like the definition above states, to pleasantly hold the attention of – all of us can do that without pristine home environs.
Yes, make sure it’s not a tornado, that people have clean dishes and reasonably comfy spots to sit…and beyond that, simply get over yourself and invite some people over. The excitement of being invited rules the day and should guide the effort.
The memories are what people remember. The hospitality you give them in the uber busy world around us. It’s the fabricated opportunity we make ourselves to slow down and enjoy each other.
In a world we’ve built – harried, bustling and noisy – entertaining is an island of fun, rest, and relationship building. I highly recommend you host at least 2 parties this year. Dinner, outdoor, BBQ, tapas, holiday – whatever. The occasion doesn’t matter. What matters is that you do it.
So the deal is to just do it. You’ll be very glad you did (so will your guests). Next time you’re in my neighborhood, give me a call in advance. I’ll be glad to have you over for dinner.
Till the next time ~
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